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The Difference Between Bummer and Tragedy
The last time I wrote a parenting article here was, I think, at least two years ago. Or three. Or a million. Or a week ago. I really have no idea. There is pre-pandemic and there is now; I have no other grasp of time.
We could talk about what it’s been like trying to raise kids in a world gone mad but pretty much everything has been said about that already. And you know what it’s like. You’re living it. I see the empty booze bottles in your recycling cans.
It’s been rough.
You knew when you signed up to be a parent that you’d have to be a better person, a smarter person, a more courageous person, an indefatigable person, an inspiring role model for your kids and their generations to come.
But if you are anything like me, you didn’t actually believe it. You figured you’d slide by on your youth and sense of humor and – if necessary – your ability to stand your ground until you wear down the enemy even when you know for sure that you are wrong.
So it’s a kinda rough landing when real life requires you to not only raise your kids to be stellar human beings, but to do it when suddenly, the world around you is in deep disequilibrium and you don’t have any – much less, all – answers as to how to foster in your children the qualities of compassion, mindfulness, critical thinking skills, and perspective.
There was no handbook for a pandemic. There wasn’t even toilet paper.
But I do have something uncharacteristically optimistic to say about all this:
Your kids have the opportunity to learn what entitlement – and the sudden absence of it – means. And that gives them the opportunity to see the world with eyes that are more keen than if they had grown up in the relatively easy-going bubble that was life five years ago.
The first lesson for your kids is, of course, that our lives were easy and entitled before the pandemic, and that our lives are still relatively easy and entitled. And that many people’s lives have always been threatened by hatred, poverty, marginalization and much more. Understanding how fortunate we are - feeling gratitude, perspective, all the qualities Oprah wants us to have – is not something little kids really get, but experiencing even the privileged small, bougie hardships of not being able to go to a friend’s house or not going Trick or Treating because of the pandemic sews the seeds of perspective.
That’s the good news.
The bad news is that they aren’t going to be happy about it. And the other bad news is that they aren’t going to use the experience to make them better people until they are older. You know, when you are long dead.
Oh, and also?
It requires us – the parents – to show them the way. It requires us to meet the challenges of these times with a balance of validating our kids’ disappointments with modeling a sort of, “this is life” loving steadfastness.
Yeah, you having the attitude now that you hope to see in your kids when they are adults.
Sorry, but it’s true.
But wait. Good news returns!
This doesn’t mean you have to be happy about everything. In fact, if you are the kind of person who is happy about everything, well, frankly, you will have stopped reading this already because it doesn’t speak to you. Which is cool. Go, go be happy. Personally, I find unfailingly happy people to be insufferable, but, you know, God bless everyone.
When things are crappy, when the pandemic world sucks, we have to be honest and authentic about it. We can say to our kids, “You’re right, it really is disappointing that we can’t do this because of the pandemic” and…leave it at that. Just validate. Just listen. Just - as my generation is wont to say - Just be here now. Breathe out your nose. Make soft Yoga eyes at your child. Do 25 Kegels and enjoy a toned pelvic floor. Don’t fill the space with any helpful advice because there’s nothing more to said after validating.
If you have been in my parenting classes or groups, if you have spent any time at all with me, you know that I march under a few banners, and one of them is: Compassionate Detachment. I like to think of it as Love and Logic, but for actual humans with human feelings. (Cue the hate mail. You’ve got my email address).
Finding the true balance of compassion and detachment is a skill. Compassion is the genuine validation that things are different and hard and scary and disappointing; Detachment is still putting one foot in front of the other and doing what needs to be done. Whether it’s not being able to go on a vacation or it’s having to clean the house or anything in-between, we feel our feelings and, still feeling them, we carry on. Maybe whining. Maybe pouting. Maybe squeezing out a few tears, even. But we carry on.
It is very tempting, as a parent, to want to have our kids do everything with a positive attitude. And in the next months, I am going to write about this whole unrealistic idea of expecting them to never complain or pout, but for now I want to point out that when ramifications of the pandemic create disappointment for your kids, let them feel the disappointment. The feeling is authentic, and it’s normal and I bet you wouldn’t want anyone telling you to cheer up and turn that frown upside-down when you are feeling your feelings. In fact, if someone said that to me when I was upset, I’d probably feel even more upset. And misunderstood. And suddenly hungry for a LOT of bread and cheese.
Being able to tell your kids, without gratuitous sympathy, that it is, indeed, disappointing that because of the pandemic we can’t do what we used to do, is a really good way to model coping skills. Not denial or pretending skills. Not fake happy skills. Not over-the-top dramatic commiseration skills. Just accepting that what it is, is what it is. With true compassion.
I need to mention here that we are talking about the privileged stuff that disappoints our kids. When they encounter or learn about real problems that others may have, real hardships, a real lacking, compassionate detachment takes a very big back seat to action. And I could (and will) talk about how to create appropriate actions for your kids that both give them a sense of hope, a sense of purpose and does good in the world. But this piece is getting a little bit long, and I believe the assignment I was given was, “…can you write us a short article on parenting during the pandemic?”
So I’ll wrap it up.
Raising kids in strange times, in times of unrest, in times of unknown futures is a gift, albeit one that you didn’t order, don’t want and wish didn’t exist. Guiding our kids through these strange times can strengthen their coping skills, their compassion and, eventually, their ability to keep perspective. To really understand the difference between bummer and tragedy.
We can learn it together with our kids.
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I don't know how I am supposed to do Yom Kippur this year.
Oh, I'm evaluating my deeds, as we are instructed to do; I'm looking at where I've fallen down on the job, asking forgiveness from those I have wronged.
Except this: I am not going to ask forgiveness for hating. And even worse: I don't even want to stop hating.
Yeah, I know that hate only diminishes me and love is the answer and blah blah blah, but to everything (turn turn turn) there is a season. And this season of Republican fascism, religious fanaticism and cruel injustice foments hate in me.
I don't feel like praying; I feel like fighting. I feel like fighting dirty.
Who by fire, who by water...Leonard Cohen's song, taken from the High Holydays liturgy. This week is the time of reckoning; all our deeds of the past year are examined and written on our permanent records. We have until sundown at Yom Kippur to make things right -there are no extensions or hall passes. We can't say we had cramps. Can't say we were at a funeral. We can't even say that we were in temple for a Jewish holiday (this, an excuse so beautifully bulletproof in a gentile world that it absolutely proves we are The Chosen People.)
This week I am called to search my soul. And so I am doing it, but not because I want to make sure I will not die by fire or water or smoke or pandemic or a knee on my throat; I'm doing it because it's a worthy endeavor. I got some transgressions I could clean up. God sees all, and Robin is going to get hip to my shit sooner or later.
So I've been searching. I've been poking around in there, moving around the boxes of guilt and photographs and shoulder pads and my old Mary McCaslin albums and painful memories, and hope and joy so I can see into most abandoned cobwebby corners. Looking for forgiveness. Looking for love for all humankind.
And I have come to the the conclusion that this year, I'm going down with a lot of F's and "needs to improve"s on my report card. I might not even pass 5780. Oh dear Lord, please don't make me repeat this year.
I do not have love in my heart for all humankind. I just can't muster it. I have enormous love in my heart for some of humankind. I love every single person who is going to vote the Democratic ticket. I love almost everyone who wears a mask when they go out. I love critical thinkers and scientists, and I have nothing but love for all animals. Except nutria. Nutria weird the fuck out of me and if I had to chose between saving the life of a baby nutria or saving the life of baby Mitch McConnell, well, of course I would save the nutria. But I'd probably throw up afterwards.
I could be wrong, but I am going to let myself hate for now. If my hate feeds my awareness and my awareness feeds my actions and deeds, then, you know, bless the fuel.
The last line to that Leonard Cohen song is, "...and who is calling..."
Maybe it doesn't matter who is calling.
As long as I answer.
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The air quality in Portland is 502 today.
I have no idea what that means scientifically, but I can tell you that it feels apocalyptic.
I am in a state of mind somewhere between heartland stoicism, urban investigative curiosity and coastal denial. I follow the air quality numbers like a day trader on coke, yet I do not look out the window.
Not that I could see anything if I did look out the window. No visibility. All smoke. Fire. Covid. Racism.
That night, a million years ago, when Trump won, my son Zach said to me on the phone, "Well, democracy is over." And I told him that he was being an alarmist.
If he was, he comes by it honestly. Alarmism runs in the veins of a few of our family tree's leaves. During the pogroms in Russia, it worked for us because it got us the hell outta there. In the 21st century, however, with no pogroms from which to flee, the alarmist siren in me tends to go off at somewhat less urgencies. Like when I run out of vanilla coffee creamer. Or I lose my phone.
Until now.
Yesterday, I was talking to Zach on the phone and I apologized for calling him an alarmist that election night. I said, "but, fuuuuuck, did you ever think it would be this bad?"
He answered, "Yes. What do you think fascism looks like?"
And I looked out the window.
Fascism is not just a word or an insult or an easy way to describe authoritarianism. Fascism, I see now, is a breakdown of everything. No safety net. No one answering phones in federal offices. No prisoners to fight the California fires because the prisons are Covid incubators because the Republicans in power aren't doing a damn thing about the pandemic. Fascism is no response from the motherfucking president when the Oregon governor calls him over and over again, needing relief for our state. Which is unlivable right now. We are choking over here.
I have never felt so expendable in my life as I do today.
Fascism is not orderly like a parade of goose-stepping brownshirts; it's chaotic. It's right-wing vigilantes stopping evacuees in their cars because they believe that antifa is starting the fires here and they - ignorant, crazed, armed - have given themselves the power to search us for suspicious items in our cars.
So, no, Zach was not being an alarmist. He had read history.
And it breaks my fucking heart that my child, my children, your children, all of us are seeing it all play out in 2020. I hope we understand that the unraveling didn't start in 2020, however. Or in 2016. Or before that. Unraveling is a slow process, requiring patience and strategy. It can fly under the radar until it's nearly complete.
November is around the corner and now, so many displaced West coast residents from the fires, I worry how those people will vote. How will they get their mail-in ballots? This just adds to the plethora of voter suppression tactics going on in the country.
Fascism.
And I am against it.
I am ANTI fascism, you ugly knuckle-dragging, uneducated, spittle-spewing, unAmerican, puffed up, wanna-be action figures with accessories sold separately.
Being against fascism is the most American thing a person can be.
So when the smoke clears - if the smoke ever clears - and I can return to being terrified and enraged by the fact that there is a runaway pandemic over us, that babies are still in ICE jail, that black lives still do not matter, that our natural resources are still in peril, that education is still being Betsy'ed to death, that our social infrastructure is still cracking under the federal leadership of hate and greed, well, then I am going to go outside (wearing my mask. Because God is not going to protect me from Covid. God is so over all the asinine declarations about Her works. The one where the MAGAs credit Her for bringing Trump to them has really pissed Her the fuck off), and start screaming again.
Louder this time.
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Well.
I've just been sprung from Facebook jail. Gimme a minute to take a shower, change outta the orange jumpsuit and pull the cigs I stashed in my vagina.
It wasn't my first time in the joint. The first time it happened I was so sad, but that was many incarcerations ago. Facebook jail doesn't scare me anymore. I'm practically a Preferred Visitor. This time I demanded a Kosher meal. Just to fuck with them. I asked for a nice piece fresh fish. And then I sent it back because the smell was iffy.
HAH. Zuckerberg can throw me in the slammer but once I'm there, he is my bitch.
Anyway.
Why was I in FB jail this time, you might ask?
Well, it is some moist and stinky bullshit going on over on FB with determining hate speech. Because, as it turns out, hate speech is in the eye of the beholder of the power.
Dig this: everyone I know who has been put in FB jail, all my incarcerated brothers and sisters, we have one thing in common: we all posted something critical of our country, our president, or our race. None of us posted against people of color, of immigrants, LGBTQ or any religions. None of us had used profanity in the post that got us busted. Which, come to think of it, might have been what triggered FB to notice me: the glaring lack of profanity. Unprecedented.
The last time I was in FB jail, the time before this time, I had posted: God, I hate white people.
It was kinda a joke. Kinda. Because, frankly, we are a horrible people.
Anyway, before you could say, Flu Klux Klan, I was disappeared from FB.
The time before that, I had posted: Americans are the worst.
Boom. Jail.
When I was sprung after that time, just to test my emerging theory, I posted this: Italians are the worst.
Nothing.
So I tried: Green people are the worst.
Nothing.
You know what came next, right?
"Jews are the worst." And then I hit, "Post".
Nothing from FB. Not even a warning. Guess it's fine to post that kind of shit.
But just try to post, "White America sucks," and all of a sudden, it's hate speech.
And you wind up behind bars, with no one to hear what you have to say except your imaginary fellow inmates.
Good thing I've been workshopping my new prison material this year in the high school pool shower after water aerobics. You know those jokes about not bending over to pick up the soap, the ones that caused my fellow communal showerers to finish up quickly and scurry outta there, sometimes with conditioner on their hair and soap in their eyes?
Yeah, well, I killed with those jokes in jail.
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In just a few more months, I will be getting Social Security money! Every month! For free! For doing nothing!
America, amirite?
God, I hate Republicans so fucking much. We'll get back to that in a moment.
When I was young and I thought about social security, I envisioned an ancient, arthritic, gnarled, ill-tempered old lady with her bra around her waist and stockings rolled to her knees.
Well, say hello to me.
Two of my arthritic fingers cannot straighten up without assistance from the other fingers (I tell people it's because I've played guitar for fifty years but it's probs from the decades of overuse, showing the bartender how much tequila to pour).
The ill-tempered thing? Got it covered. My secret is that my jeans are too tight.
And as for the bra around my waist, well, that's not from being too lazy to pull it up to my boobs. It's that my waist is WHERE MY BOOBS ARE NOW. You know, the mountain(s) went to....you get the idea.
If you follow me on FB, you are aware that I have given up underwire bras until we have a Democratic president. We each have to do our part in the Resistance. Life is too painful under this Mofo regime as it is, and anyway, I was certain that imma going to die of bra underwire. One sharp gasp and clutch to my breast at reading the latest headline about babies in ICE jail or killing the forests and POP! The wire breaks through the bra and ...Wacoal stake to the heart.
The only way my newfangled no-wire bralette is gonna kill me is the cost.
Which brings me back to social security. There are a few things about getting old that are just plain old awesome. If you are financially solvent. And healthy. And white.
I have aged out of Pap smears. Did you know this is a thing? Evidently, I'm now mature enough to be in charge of the welfare of my own cervix. It feels a little bit premature, truth be told. I don't feel ready. I've never taken care of a cervix before. When I was five, I kept forgetting to replenish the water for the little turtles we got on Olvera Street and they all died horrible deaths. How can I be trusted with my cervix? (Does it need to be watered?) Honestly, if the medical community is listening, what I'd prefer is that you guys keep a watch on my cervix and I will monitor my weight gain.
The other day, Robin and I had the dogs at the park. Louie and Phila present very well - they are attractive and well-groomed and not too Poodle-y, you know what I mean? Anyway, people complimented us on them (as if we had designed the Poodle) and then asked the inevitable question: "what do they weigh?"
Dudes.
That is SUCH a rude question.
I thought they were asking it about me, at first. Like, "Hey, that's a good looking wife you got there. What does she weigh?" Or, "She's a big girl, isn't she? What does it cost to feed her?"
And Robin could answer, "Well, she eats a lot of table scraps in addition to her meals. She's such a beggar."
And then I would fart.
And they would laugh and shake their heads because everyone knows that 65 year old women cannot digest chicken skin.
What was my point?
Oh, right. Republicans.
I really hate them.
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Claire and I talk every day. Well, not talk, per se, because we both hate phone calls. We will avoid them at almost any cost.
It's really the defining quality of our enduring professional and personal relationship. That, and our love of salt over sugar.
Our conversation this morning was about anger. Not at each other, of course, we would NEVER be angry at each other; it was about how sick we both are of people calling for niceness. And understanding. And, God help us, compassion.
Yeah.
Fuck that shit.
If you can read about children being separated from their families, kept in cages, and not feel anger, if you can watch Mitch McConnell and his minions shit on the Constitution, if you can listen to Donald Trump say, well, pretty much say anything, and not feel angry, then fuck you. You have lost the ability to know when anger is appropriate.
My therapist assures me that anger is a completely normal and rational response to some situations. I'm pretty sure she would assure me of it, anyway, if I had stayed in therapy.
It is not wrong or unladylike or “just like them” to be pissed off. REALLY pissed off. But in a sea of “If You Can Be Anything, Be Kind” tee-shirts, a person can get confused.
Claire and I have, therefore, written a handy cheat-sheet for you.
LET IT OUT, OR LET IT GO?
~ A primer of appropriate responses in the time of Trump, by Claire LaZebnik and Ann Brown
Your child spills their milk all over the table and even into your purse which wasn’t supposed to be lying on the table but you thought it would be fine there for THREE MINUTES.
DON’T GET ANGRY
Your kid is just a kid and we’ve all spilled stuff. It happens. Be a good sport. Send a donation to CASA.
A presidential candidate openly mocks someone with special needs in front of the entire country and people laugh with him.
GET ANGRY
This is indecent and wrong and disgusting. It’s despicable. Send a
generous donation to whomever is going to run against Trump in November.
Old white state senators decide women shouldn’t be allowed to get abortions in their state, and insist that women who’ve been raped should have to go through with an ensuing pregnancy
GET HEADBANGING LOSE YOUR SHIT ANGRY
If men could get pregnant, there’d be an abortion clinic on every block. They have no right to dictate a woman’s choices. Send a donation to Planned Parenthood.
Your husband leaves his socks on the floor even though you’ve asked him not to
GET PEEVED, NOT ANGRY
It’s annoying but it’s no biggie. Still, you are welcome to put the dirty socks inside his pillowcase. Or quietly pin them to the back of his shirt before he leaves the house. And send a donation to a homeless shelter.
POTUS doesn’t even know which state is which and tweets congratulations to the wrong state after the Super Bowl.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO GET ANGRY ABOUT THIS UNLESS YOU’RE FROM MISSOURI OR KANSAS. OR UNLESS YOU CARE THAT THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES IS A MORON WHO DOESN’T FUCKING KNOW THE CITIES AND STATES OF THE COUNTRY OF WHICH HE IS PRESIDENT. Donate some more money to the Democratic candidate for next November.
Your invited guest brought their dog with them to your house without asking first.
DON’T GET ANGRY
Come on, it’s just a dog. Give it a scritch. But the next time they’re coming over, say, “Don’t bring your dog.” And send a donation to the Humane Society.
Mitch McConnell ignores the rule of law and any ideas of compromise or fairness and takes advantage of a slight majority to ignore bills from the Congress, acquit a president of crimes he clearly committed by refusing to let witnesses speak, and put very partial judges in power positions
GET SO FUCKING ANGRY YOU VOMIT UP YOUR LUNGS
He’s destroying our country in front of our eyes. Send more money to Amy. And maybe a nice Edible Arrangements fruit bouquet. We want her to stay nourished.
People in power vilify those who are already marginalized--anyone who isn’t white, Christian, cis-gender or straight. They try to turn these vulnerable Americans into scapegoats and blame any issues in the country on them.
GET ANGRIER THAN YOU’VE EVER BEEN BEFORE
Fight the bastards. Donate to the ACLU.
Kids are put in cages and treated like prisoners
GET SO CRAZY FUCKING REDHOT ANGRY YOU REFUSE TO BE FRIENDS WITH ANYONE WHO SUPPORTS THIS BARBARIC FASCIST REGIME
Take to the streets. Fight. Resist. Donate to RAICES.
Your book club group picks a book you didn’t want to read and SAID you didn’t want to read
GET ANNOYED
Quit book club and use the time to get out the vote for the Dems. Then go home and read a book YOU want to read. Discuss the book with yourself. Agree to disagree.
Someone says, “If we could all just stop being so angry at each other . . .”
RIP THEM TO FUCKING SHREDS AND EAT THEIR BONES FOR DINNER. And,um, donate, don’t donate, it’s okay. Just please don’t hurt us.
You read an announcement that - thanks to Trump and his minions - all the environmental regulations that were put in place over the last few decades to keep our water and earth safe and clean have been overturned and businesses can pour their poisons wherever the hell they want.
If you don’t know the answer by this point, you are pissing us off.
GET ANGRY. And donate to all the environmental protection organizations.
Your writing partner refuses to use the tab button no matter how many times you tell her to.
DON’T GET ANGRY. I’m trying my best, Claire. Remember I’m old. And I have cataracts. And send a donation to me, because you were just mean to me. I think fifty bucks should unruffle my feathers.
.
Your writing partner passively aggressively shames you about forgetting to use the tab button.
DON’T GET ANGRY. BUT PRETEND YOU ARE SO SHE WILL FEEL BAD.
And then buy one of Claire’s books. She’s not a charity but she could use the support, especially with Ann making her feel bad about everything.
(But we digress...)
You should be angry right now. Really really angry.
And not just at those in power--also at those who don’t look past their own bubbles to see how many people are suffering because of this administration and how much injustice is being allowed and how many dangerous people have been given power . . . anger can be fuel for doing good.
So get angry at anyone who isn’t fighting for basic human rights in this country. And turn all that red hot anger into donations, canvassing, marching, phoning, volunteering, and fighting for sanity and decency.
Or stay calm and sit on your ass. We can’t stop you.
But we are going to be so mad at you . . .
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Everybody's talking about love.
Well, fuck that shit. I'm gonna talk about hate.
Specifically, my hate for Donald Trump.
I am not new to hating presidents; I've protested against them, campaigned against them, boo'ed them in person, drew Hitler mustaches on photos of them, and allegedly threw my apple core at one of them as his motorcade passed by although it was never proven no matter what that reactionary Nixon-loving asshole standing next to me told the authorities.
But Trump.
But Trump.
This is a level of vitriol, hate, disgust I have never reached before.
When my sister and I were young, we lived next door to a family whom we declared our arch enemies. Such was the depth of hate that fomented in four-year-old me that every once in a while, just for sport, I try to find any of them on Facebook. You know, just to work myself up.
This neighbor family was deserving of our enmity. They were racists, they were war hawks, they slammed the door in my mom's face when we went door-to-door campaigning for the California Fair Housing Act in 1959. And although those were reasons that my parents disliked them, we - my sister Karen and me - took the issues deeply to heart and made our mission to make them - the three kids - pay for the sins of their parents.
Oh yeah, shit was real in North Hollywood.
I hated those kids with the red hot burning passion of a thousand suns. For years, we waged The War (as Karen and I called it). We sabotaged their lawn, we broke their bikes, we got into screaming fights and chases with them, and more than once, we stole their lunch boxes at school and threw them in the trashcan.
The War was on after school, on weekends and summer vacations. It went on for years. We had no plan, no exit strategy, no support from our allies, nothing that Colin Powell's Doctrine of War would have advised us to do. It was our 'Nam.
One day, the dad of the family yelled at me and shook me by the shoulders because I told his kids that Barry Goldwater was an idiot and anyone who voted for him was also an idiot. I also told the kids that there is no Santa Claus which, as far as I knew, was a far worse thing to say and I wondered for a long time why that wasn't the transgression that brought his shitstorm on me.
When MY dad found out what the neighbor had done, he blew out of our house and stormed next door.
Karen and I, watching from our front porch, couldn't see what went on inside their house but we heard the mom screaming, "Mr. Brown is killing your father!" These words were indelibly printed onto my brain not because my dad - who had never raised a hand, EVER, in anger - was kicking the guy's ass, but because in my progressive, liberal family, nobody was referred to as, "Mr." or "Misses", we called everyone by their first name. It made me giggle. Mister Brown.
An observer - maybe that asshole who reported me for throwing the apple core at Nixon - might have deduced that I found it funny to see someone being beat up, but the observer would be wrong.
The neighbor was calling my dad, "Mr. Brown."
While he was kicking her husband's ass.
Tell me that isn't funny.
Anyway, the incident pretty much laid to rest my roiling rage at the family. Oh, I still hated them and the kids were still horrible little shits who - and this is a verifiably true story - put our CAT in their garage freezer. (We rescued the cat. He lived, happily, to a ripe old age.) Karen and I still organized neighborhood chases and rumbles but that's mostly because the soundtrack to "West Side Story" had recently been released and we were obsessed with it. Chasing them was an opportunity for me to hone my choreography, pirouette-ing and gran jete-ing my way down Laurel Canyon Blvd, crouched low, snapping my fingers. Wearing my flowered corduroy pedal pushers and rubber-toed PF Flyers.
Bad to the (chicken soup) bone.
If my dad were alive today, and if he could kick Trump's ass, would I feel as free of the gripping fury that clutches at me every time I read the news as I did when he punched out a racist asshole neighbor?
Probably not. Because violence doesn't solve anything and blah blah blah blah blah blah.
And because Trump would just claim that HE kicked my dad's ass. And he'd doctor a photo of my dad with a broken nose.
And his mofo minions would swear to the lie.
And I'd be mired in disgust and hate for them all over again. And I can't handle more hate than I already have. I swear I am going back to eating white starch carbs because scones and baguettes don't lie or put babies in cages or start bullshit wars to distract from impeachment hearings.
Anyway, as it turns out, my dad had already been itching to punch the neighbor because he had caught the guy peeping into my bedroom window from his backyard. The guy was a creepy sicko perv.
Huh. A racist who was also a perv. Where have we heard that before?
Gonna grab my tennies. I feel a dance sequence coming on.
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